Tales of a Bridesmaid: Edition 14

Sit back and enjoy the moment (any moment!) because you won’t have any particular moment forever. Sounds simple enough right? Sadly, it’s something many of us cannot do. We are on the go 24/7 in a fast paced world where texts are answered in a matter of seconds and emails within a matter of minutes. Patience has gone out the window and the days of just sitting back and relaxing are foreign. The simplicity of life’s every day joys are overwhelmed with instant communication, over sharing online, and schedules so busy you have to set reminders for your reminders.

I am sharing this because it sumsup my life. Many parents have children who remind them of the simpler things in life. That it’s important to take the time to enjoy the moment. Well for one thing, I have no children so that idea is out and my dog can only do so much before she crawls under a blanket for her 50th nap of the day. So what do I do now? I would like to refer to my Tales of a Bridesmaid, Edition 10 post. Remember this girl? “For the girl who is waiting, she has her guy. She has her wedding all planned out. She is simply waiting for the question to come. And my dear friend, it will be when you least expect it. So stop trying to ruin the surprise for yourself.”

Well she waited and when she least expected it, he popped the question. Three friends have now told me via text (e.g. they sent me a picture of their ring) that they are engaged. This is usually followed by a scream from me. Strangers staring at me as to why I’m screaming as I proceed to call the new bride to be.

Now back to the sit back and relax part of the blog. I immediately called my friend to get all of the details about this beautiful sparkler which will now adorn her finger for the rest of her life. It was a typical casual Sunday. Watching TV, playing with their dog, relaxing and then BAM! He whips out a ring in a box that is so big, I’m surprised it fit in the box. Lesson ladies, good things come to those who wait. Anyways, she says yes. She texts her friends. I call and she tells me the story. I ask when the wedding date will be. One year? Several months? Over one year? In two years? Will the wedding be on the East Coast? West Coast? Should you have your bachlorette in Vegas? Or perhaps sunny Palm Springs? How about that resort we all loved last summer? Or the Palazzo in Vegas?

She stops me and says, “Oh my gosh, S. I’ve only been engaged for half an hour. I don’t know yet.” It hit me, I had failed to realize that despite how amazing this moment was for her. She was still getting used to the idea that her boyfriend was now her fiance. Shame on me. So I simply told her to go enjoy her newly engaged moment and took a mental note to keep my mouth shut. I didn’t let her enjoy the moment because I was so caught up in the details of planning. With another congratulations, I hung up the phone and smiled as another one of my friends will be walking down the aisle in the future. Near future perhaps?

So brides and bridesmaids, enjoy the simple joyous moments in your life. Don’t get too weighed down with the logistics. It’s okay to take a breather. Life doesn’t always have to go 90 mph. Easier said than done right?

Until next week my friends…
S