“No Ring – No Bring” But What Happens When Guests Ignore This Classic Rule?

It’s a classic rule that people have heard time and time again: “No Ring – No Bring.” Although one would hope your guests would appreciate the invite and not demand to bring a guest, sometimes their needs are more dominant than their class.

As the engaged couple, it’s up to you to set the rules in advance. Be strong in your decision and make sure you have open lines of communication between the two of you as to not make exceptions without speaking with one another first. If possible, make sure you make it as clear as glass when sending invitations. Whether that means writing everyone’s name on the envelope or being specific about the number of guests each RSVP card is made for, if you set the tone in advance, there is less room for interpretation.

If the situation comes about where someone still wants to bring a guest, there is an appropriate way to address them.

First, I always think about it on a personal level and what that person means to me…are they a close friend, family member, someone I barely know but my parents know? Based on these parameters you can decide if you want to call or e-mail the guest to address the issue. If they are a close friend, pick up the phone. If it’s someone you know on a more casual basis, e-mail is appropriate.

The key is just being honest.A note or conversationalong these lines would be appropriate: